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| Many of us T-Girls never get to go out at all, those that do
find the experience very rewarding if,at times, a little nerve wracking. Having
been asked by other girls about it I thought I would write up this small
article. Now, the big rule when out always make sure you are safe, this article will help you to understand what you need to do to ensure you have fun while out but always place your own safety as the first priority. Firstly there are two ways of being out when dressed, the first is where you are going to some friendly 'scene' environment (like clubs etc). These are always safe places to be and that means you only have to get there. If your dressing in fetish or extreme outfits its best to to either dress there - many clubs have facilities for this - OR wear something over the top of your club outfit. I have a long loose skirt and loose blouse which I just put over my latex dresses, once at the club I can just remove the outer clothes and I am ready to boogie. If you do this get very lightweight materials so you dont get too hot. Those indian style skirts are good as the material is very light and also loose enough to fit over other stuff. For clubs its best to take a taxi - that way you will arrive at the door and can also exit straight away as well reducing the amount of time you will be on the street. Most TV clubs will have taxis waiting for you when you leave OR will let you stay inside until the taxi arrives. Going out to clubs is an easy way to get out, have fun and be safe (you can check out clubs in the resources section here) but some of us want to go out more than that. I used to go shopping just in high streets dressed up (these days I dress almost all the time) . This takes a bit more nerves for most T Girls but follow these simple rules that will help you be safe but have fun. Firstly ALWAYS dress in such a way as to reduce attention. Men will be drawn to short skirts, high heel, blonde wigs etc so avoid these - at least to start with. Dress down to look like an average woman and most people wont even notice you. For your first outing go somewhere super safe where there's few people. Parks are good or if your lucky enough like me to live near a seafront or similar beauty spot thats also an ideal place. Go out in daylight at first. Lots of TVs assume at night you are less distinguishable and therefore safer. WRONG you may look better but at night is where there is danger ! People from pubs, street yobs and other elements are around plus there's nowhere open and possibly no where to go to get help quick. During the day you can head into a shop and be safe. Few people wil risk a confrontation in a shop where there will be CCTV systems etc. The people who are most likely to hassle you will be deterred if its daylight and there are other people around. So paradoxically your safer in a crowd or at least somewhere where other people are. Totally deserted areas are best avoided. Scout round your local area in drab and find a good place to start. My first time out I just drove the car round which is a good place to start off. Your out but no-one can get close enough and of course in a car you are safe. Dont fear being stopped by the Police - of course its embarrassing but the Police will be courteous and not hassle you because they are bound by the European human rights conventions and its more than their jobs worth to make snide comments. When your out the first few times dont go too far from your car or somewhere you can retreat to if you need. It can be a very scary experience the first few times and you will want the comfort of knowing you can get out of any situation if you need to FAST. For your first outings NEVER EVER go out alone, you put yourself at risk and you will need and appreciate some moral support. Get a friend to go with you - either a real girl or a male in male dress. That way the other person acts as camoflage for you and helps distract observers. DONT go with another T-Girl - you will end up making each other nervous and will attract attention. Unless both of you are experienced going out with a T-Girl will be very stressful for both of you. What to avoid....never be out when pubs are closing or schools are emptying out. Your biggest risk is late night drinkers and also teenagers and children so stay away from areas where they are likely to be and times when they will be out on the street. Younger people are less inhibited and therefore more likley to cause problems for you. Keep your wits about you and anticiapte whats coming. Think like a female ! If you hear someone walking behind you or see someone coming towards you and you think there may be a hazard, cross over the road and/or turn round and walk away while you still have enough distance between you. ALWAYS be planning your exit from any situation. Once your out you will find most people arent that observant and will just assume you are a female so long as you look at least moderately convincing. How convincing do you need to be ? Thats a hard one - only you will know if you look ok and will pass (obviously for clubbing it makes no difference but for being out on the street you do need to look reasonably good if you hope to to be undetected). How do you know if your ready for it yet ? You will know trust me.....if you're in doubt then your not ready. Dont go out until you are sure you want to. If you 'push' it you will more than likely scare yourself badly and put yourself off. Remember this is fun not an SAS selection course. Check the weather it can be hard on us T-Girls. Strong winds can remove your wig, rain wil wreck a wig and if its too hot your makeup will suffer. You need to be comfortable and calm so dont add to the stress in anway. Also when its hot you cant conceal any giveaways like big arm muscles etc unless you are willing to be boiled alive. How do people react ? Most never notice. The few that do in my experience just ignore you. The giveaways are your voice and your mannerisms - these will clue people in for more readily than how you look. For instance watch women in a hurry, they take small steps but more of them - they dont stride along like Crocodile Dundee so watch the walk - its easily the biggest giveway after the voice. Watch when you start getting confident that you keep the mannerisms - its easy to let them slip once you are comfortable. Theres not much you can do about the voice so practice talking in softer tones if you want to go shopping. My first outings were with a real femme and I was so nervous that she had to tell people I was dumb so I wouldnt have to talk - I expect I'll burn for that lie but it made it easier for me. Thats about it - I have mentioned possible trouble but dont be put off. Sadly our streets are not 100% safe for anyone but of you follow these rules you will minimise any problems. To sum up 1/ Dress down to what normal girls wear on the street - they dont wear rubber minidressses. 2/ Stay somewhere thats in daylight and with people around even if they are some way off. 3/ Go with a partner - a real girl or male in male mode. 4/ Avoid areas and times that increase the risk (schools and pubs) 5/ Aim to go on cooler days. 6/ Watch the mannerisms - walk dont stride. 7/ Stay calm and anticipate possible dangers. 8/ Dont push yourself to go out when you arent sure your ready. Thats it - have fun and always keep your own safety first, last and always.  My sincere thanks to Isabelle for all of her help, advice and patience in helping me on my first outings. |
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